Are YOU Clingy?!

Alrighty girlfriends... and dudes... It's soon to be summer time (if you're in the northern hemisphere, that is!) and this is usually a time when a lot of fun is to be had. But if you're being a Hoover (or maybe we should call them Dyson's these days! LOL!) in your relationship; that's to say, you're sucking the life out of your relationship by being clingy.. you could be setting yourself up for a breakup! And no one really means for this clinginess to come about.. it just happens! You're excited! You can't wait to hear from them, to see them, to BE with them. And then comes the boys' or girls' night out and you start to feel upset because they should want to spend that time with you. Or they said they'd call or text you back, but didn't...

Relationships are TOUGH work! They are not the things of fairy tales or Hollywood romances. Though they can sometimes feel that way, it's not how it'll be 100% of the time! And there's a delicate balance that has to be maintained.. Otherwise you start to become that needy, over obsessed partner that your other half starts to wonder what the hell they are seeing you for! Which then starts bringing about doubts, maybe even arguments, and possibly even a break up! So how do you keep things in check?!


#1 - You have to realize that your better half is their own person. They will think, feel, and deal with things completely differently than you will. If you happened to see my post Happily Ever After Someday, or you check it after you read this, you'll see the pain scale graphic. EVERYONE experiences things differently, whether it be pain or love! Clinginess doesn't come about from feeling unappreciated or from there being a lack of love. It comes from not being understanding, from forming an over dependency and from being insecure.

#2 - You BOTH need your own space! You have your own likes and dislikes.. or you should anyways, because if you both like 100% of everything and think the same way.. that is going to get real boring, REAL quick! Everyone needs time to themselves to de-stress and unwind from the day. Even married couples aren't all up in each other's face 24/7, and if they are, it usually isn't because they're in love! And even then, it probably still wouldn't be 24/7!

#3 - You're a jabber jaw and s/he's not.. or maybe you just are like "just let me listen to you breathe on the phone while you.. play Xbox, write your thesis, pay your bills, etc."... It's O-K if you don't have hour upon hour gab sessions EVERY DAY. Hell, it's ok if you don't even talk every day!! It doesn't mean things are done and over or s/he doesn't care! It just means there were other things that needed done in their life!! Don't take it personal.. maybe they spent 4 hours on the phone at work (if that's something that's possible) and they just don't have it in them to talk! There could be a number of things... you don't have to make it about you.

#4 - Friends get in the way... or so it seems. This is going to be a huge one for some. Maybe you don't like the friends because they aren't motivated, or maybe they're the opposite sex! Either way, the friends were there BEFORE the relationship and just because you might not like them; doesn't mean they need to drop them like hot cakes! Being demanding is NOT attractive in any way, shape, or form. And if friends come into the mix AFTER the relationship is in place, you have to TRUST that your S.O. is smart enough to make decisions on who they want in their life! If you're feeling resentful because they have a life outside of you, then you'll need to take a look at where things are at within your own life and why you're feeling that your happiness is being dependent on them being around. It's all good to have your own friends, hobbies, and just general life to live!

#5 - Insecurity creeps in!! Alas, the night out occurs and you just KNOW a hookup is going to happen. Really?! If you have that little trust in this person, you might really want to consider WHY you are with them in the first place. Let's just say in a reverse situation that YOU'RE the one that out and all of a sudden this SUPER HOT cutie is striking up a conversation and you know their hitting on you... well, of course you could take them up on the offer. But you're happy in your relationship and you're able to keep the conversation while saying in your head, or maybe even saying, NO THANKS I'M TAKEN. Again, it's about trust. Just because you're talking to the opposite sex doesn't mean you're going to hop into bed with them!

#6 - Did we DTR?!? That is to say you are NOT just dating and it is a full fledged relationship! You don't have to ask if you're the S.O., you KNOW it. And don't get me wrong, it doesn't mean you sat down and said "oh so we're boyfriend/girlfriend now, right?". Sometimes it goes that way and sometimes it doesn't. But if you have to question it, then it's usually a safer assumption to step back and take the "dating" route rather than it being something serious. If you really want to know, then open up and communicate.. but that doesn't give you the option to get upset either if you thought things were serious and they thought things were casual. Dating doesn't mean that it's fair game though either and y'all can just go around being casual with everybody and anybody. Boundaries still need to be established... in this day and age STDs are a serious matter! You BOTH need to be responsible and be able to communicate what it is you're wanting from the relationship... no matter what stage it is in!

#7 - OMG it IS a relationship! YEA! So for the sake of this time line.. it is an actual relationship that's been defined and you're out of the dating phase of it.. that doesn't mean there's a ring on it yet. And really, even if there was a ring on it, that doesn't mean it'll be there forever either. OMG I hope I didn't freak y'all out with that one! But it is the truth. And for most guys, and some women, something like that graphic would make them run for the hills!! But being overly affectionate can be just as hard to handle for some. Because they can question why you are trying too hard, or they may even wonder if the effort they are going to be able to give to the relationship is enough! As I said way back in the beginning of this post... relationships take work.. whether you're 1 week into it or 10 years into it!

And though the pic is rather funny and MOST people (obviously there was one!) wouldn't consider something like that.. I have to say that one of the main reasons I posted this blog in the first place was because I had a smattering of sessions today that had distinct undertones of this very clinginess I've been talking about with this post! I thought it might be more important to share this before it becomes more apparent as summer approaches and these sorts relationships require some rescuing! So to summarize and to really make your relationship the most awesome-ist it can be...

*YOU are awesome! KNOW it, BE it! *Everyone is their own self! Be independent and understanding! *Appreciate the time you have together.. DON'T demand the time. *Don't try to overcompensate by giving too much! Maintain a balance of give and take. *TRUST and COMMUNICATE!


So.. I think I was able to cover everything in there on how NOT to be clingy! But I might not have.. Seriously, I have scribbles all over a notepad of things I was channeling today that it will probably take weeks to totally organize! But at least this is a good start!

But if you're still wondering where things stand within your relationship and you would like me to take a look at things for you, feel free to send me a message at my facebook page or my email and I'll be glad to help!

Be on the lookout for Tarotscopes! ;)
Andi

Weekend Love Forecast

I'm so stoked to have the Weekend Love Forecast this weekend at LivePerson since it's the first weekend after New Years! I'm now coming into my third year of being involved with these horoscopes! Wow, time sure does fly by!!! And if you happen to subscribe to the horoscopes available at LivePerson, you'll notice that I've also been the author of the birthday scopes for the past 2 years!

I've also had the pleasure of working with some other fabulous women that you should check out! Chrisalis would love to have you read her 2013 Yearly Love Forecast and Cristina currently has her Weekly Horoscope also available at LivePerson. I absolutely MUST tell you to take a look at Cristina's other project, Psychic Guidepost Magazine! It is THE magazine for and by trusted, ETHICAL, psychics! You can also connect with Cristina on a more personal level at her Twitter or Facebook page!


So I hope you enjoy and if you'd like a reading to see what this year will bring, feel free to send me an email, message at Facebook or send me a quick IM through Digsby on the right side of this page if I'm available!

Have a fabulous weekend!!!
Andi

Happily Ever After Someday

First off I have to say that I am NOT a licensed psychologist, but I most certainly deal with relationship issues on a daily basis! So when I was scrolling through my facebook feed I saw Romantic Comedies Are Ruining Your Relationship and thought I should give it a read considering romcoms are one of my favorite genres!

What had me frustrated with this article was how it said these movies "bear no resemblance to genuine human interaction." Well, quite frankly, that's not the truth.. because aren't most movies/tv shows based on personal experiences from the writers point of view? Granted it is the same recycled story over and over by this time, but there IS some truth to be had from them. I'm sure I can think of any number of stories from shows that fit into my friends or families relationships! My husband and I just watched What To Expect When You're Expecting the other day and I guess that fits into a romcom! Seeing that we just had our 4th baby in June, the days of pregnancy are not all that far behind us and we laughed at the situations in the movie we just recently had dealt with. My husband and I have been together for almost 18 years and it hasn't been all fairy tale fun.. hell, even the D word has come up in the past! But ALL relationships take work! And it's exceptionally important to remember that everyone is going to have their own feelings. No one is going to feel EXACTLY the same, and certainly not at the same time, for the same reasons!

Don't get me wrong, there were some poignant parts in the article as well.. especially that people don't change unless they really want to. But that doesn't necessarily just apply in the relationship realm! And another GREAT article I read a few days ago called 16 Ways I Blew My Marriage came from a man's perspective, definitely shows how men and women can process things differently!! What one person considers cheating, another may not. Even what one person considers putting in effort, another might think they're slacking! There's a reason why doctors use a pain scale.. so it's obviously NOT the one that I chose for my graphic! LOL! But y'all know me to have a sense of humor! But one person's 5 is another person's 10! Kinda along the lines of beauty being in the eye of the beholder!

So.. do I think any man or woman should "wait around" for their love to come around? Absolutely not! But that doesn't mean to cut them off at the knees either!! It's all in what you would feel is right or wrong for yourself. And NO ONE can or should make those sorts of life changing decisions for you!

Of course, this is just my opinions on things! But in my own experiences in my relationships and marriage and the experiences I have with my clients.. I will say that love CAN conquer all! As I finish up writing this blog I'm watching Once Upon a Time.. coincidence; not a chance!

And as always, if you’d like a reading or you just want to get to know me more, you can send me a message at facebook or my email!

Hope everyone had a great weekend!

Many Blessings!!!!
Andi

What's Your Bloody Type?!?

You might look at the title and then this picture and go WHHHAAAT?! But really, I'm going to discuss something that everyone has and could be exceptionally important at times as well. BLOOD! After the last episode of True Blood, I got interested in looking up some things about blood types, but thankfully I have Japanese relatives and have quite a bit of information on this topic! Knowing your blood type is important if you travel, because heaven forbid there be an accident and a transfusion be needed and you are in an area where your blood type is scarce!

In the 1930's Takeji Furukawa set out to find a connection between personality traits being influenced by blood type. These days, approximately 90% of Japanese know their blood type and read their horoscopes by blood types rather than the traditional astrological signs! Blood typing has also been used for employers when interviewing and also in keeping office harmony, in matchmaking for potential love matches and even companies for marketing their products! Recently the books Eat Right 4 Your Type and Cook Right 4 Your Type have had many people wanting to make dietary changes that are directly related to their blood types! I highly recommend these books as I have found them to be very helpful with some of the problems related to dietary issues! BUT, we're here to talk about personalities! Now... if you don't know your blood type, the easiest way to find out is to donate blood! Not only will you be doing a VERY valuable service, but you will find your blood type out rather easily too! One thing to remember is there is no differential factor with the Rh type (positive/negative). So.. here we go with the blood types!

Type O:
Type O's tend to be loners OR leaders and are intuitive, focused, self-reliant and sometimes daring. They are initiators, although they don't always finish what they start! They handle stress better than the other blood types and have a healthy, active nature. Creative and popular, they love to be the center of attention and appear very self confident.

Positive qualities: Ambitious, Trendsetter, Independent, Loyal, Athletic, Robust, Passionate and Self-confident.
Negative qualities: Arrogant, Vain, Jealous, Insensitive and Ruthless.

Famous O's: Oprah Winfrey, Stella McCartney, Ronald Reagan, Queen Elizabeth II, John Lennon, Paul Newman, Elvis Presley, Gerald Ford, Mikhail Gorbachev, Al Capone.

Compatibility: O is most compatible with O, and AB

Type A:
While outwardly calm, they have high standards that they often bottle up their anxiety in order to get along with others, they may hold in their emotions until they explode. They are capable of leadership positions, but they may not take them because the stress is too much to handle. In Japan many A's are in research facilities taking roles in discovering more about science, economics, manufacturing, etc. They are perfectionists to say the least!! Type A's are also the most artistic of the blood groups.

Positive qualities: Reserved, Cooperative, Patient, Sensitive, Clever, Responsible and Punctual.
Negative qualities: Obsessive, Stubborn, Conservative and Tense.

Famous A's: George H. W. Bush, O.J. Simpson, Britney Spears, Ringo Starr, Adolf Hitler, Lyndon B. Johnson, Richard Nixon, Jet Li.

Compatibility: A is most compatible with A and AB

Type B:
Goal oriented and strong minded, type B's will start a task and see it through until completed, and completed well! Type B's are the individualists of the blood group categories and find their own way in life. These individuals tend to be balanced: thoughtful like A's, yet ambitious like O's. They are empathetic, easily understanding others' points of view, yet often hesitant to challenge or confront. Chameleon-like and flexible, they make good friends and are fiercely loyal.

Positive qualities: Creative, Passionate, Strong, Animal loving, Optimistic and Flexible.
Negative qualities: Wild, Unsociable, Critical, Indecisive, Unpredictable and Unforgiving.

Famous B's: Jack Nicholson, Luciano Pavarotti, Tom Selleck, Mia Farrow, Paul McCartney, Leonardo DiCaprio.

Compatibility: B is most compatible with B and AB

Type AB:
Type AB's are the split personalities of the blood groups! They can be both outgoing and shy, confident and timid, but they also tend to be very charming and popular. While responsible, too much responsibility will cause a problem. They don't sweat the small stuff, but once a problem hits they feel as though it is their own doing. Type AB's can be seen as spiritual and even at times a bit "flaky". They are trustworthy and like to help others. There is never a dull moment in a AB's life, so if you find one for a friend, consider yourself lucky! You'll definitely enjoy some exciting times together! Only about 2 - 5% of the population are blood type AB!

Positive qualities: Popular, Sociable, Cool and Controlled.
Negative qualities: Forgetful, Critical, Indecisive, Irresponsible and Self-centered.

Famous AB's: Barack Obama, John F. Kennedy, Marilyn Monroe, Mick Jagger, Thomas Edison, Jackie Chan.

Compatibility: AB is most compatible with AB, B, A and O, or basically everyone!!

PLEASE... if you can donate blood, DO IT! 

Here is some brief information on blood donation from the American Red Cross website.

-Facts about blood needs
* Every two seconds someone in the U.S. needs blood.
* More than 38,000 blood donations are needed every day.
* A total of 30 million blood components are transfused each year in the U.S. (2006).
* The average red blood cell transfusion is approximately 3 pints.
* The blood type most often requested by hospitals is Type O.
* The blood used in an emergency is already on the shelves before the event occurs.
* Sickle cell disease affects more than 80,000 people in the U.S., 98 percent of whom are African American. Sickle cell patients can require frequent blood transfusions throughout their lives.
* More than 1 million new people are diagnosed with cancer each year. Many of them will need blood, sometimes daily, during their chemotherapy treatment.
* A single car accident victim can require as many as 100 pints of blood.

-Facts about blood supply
* The number of blood donations collected in the U.S. in a year: 16 million (2006).
* The number of blood donors in the U.S. in a year: 9.5 million (2006).
* The number of patients who receive blood in the U.S. in a year: 5 million (2006).
* Share of the U.S. population eligible to give blood: Less than 38 percent.
* Blood cannot be manufactured – it can only come from generous donors.
* Type O-negative blood (red cells) can be transfused to patients of all blood types. It is always in great demand and often in short supply.
* Type AB-positive plasma can be transfused to patients of all other blood types. AB plasma is also usually in short supply.

-Facts about the blood donation process
* Donating blood is a safe process. A sterile needle is used only once for each donor and then discarded.
* Blood donation is a simple four-step process: registration, medical history and mini-physical, donation and refreshments.
* Every blood donor is given a mini-physical, checking the donor's temperature, blood pressure, pulse and hemoglobin to ensure it is safe for the donor to give blood.
* The actual blood donation typically takes less than 10-12 minutes. The entire process, from the time you arrive to the time you leave, takes about an hour and 15 min.
* The average adult has about 10 pints of blood in his body. Roughly 1 pint is given during a donation.
* A healthy donor may donate red blood cells every 56 days, or double red cells every 112 days.
* A healthy donor may donate platelets as few as 7 days apart, but a maximum of 24 times a year.
* All donated blood is tested for HIV, hepatitis B and C, syphilis and other infectious diseases before it can be released to hospitals.
* Information you give to the American Red Cross during the donation process is confidential. It may not be released without your permission except as directed by law.

-Facts about blood and its components
* There are four types of transfusable products that can be derived from blood: red cells, platelets, plasma and cryoprecipitate. Typically, two or three of these are produced from a pint of donated whole blood – hence each donation can help save up to three lives.
* Donors can give either whole blood or specific blood components only. The process of donating specific blood components – red cells, plasma or platelets – is called apheresis.
* One transfusion dose of platelets can be obtained through one apheresis donation of platelets or by combining the platelets derived from five whole blood donations.
* Most donated red blood cells must be used within 42 days of collection.
* Donated platelets must be used within five days of collection – new donations are constantly needed.
* Plasma and cryoprecipitate are stored in frozen state and can be used for up to one year after collection.
* Healthy bone marrow makes a constant supply of red cells, plasma and platelets. The body will replenish the elements given during a blood donation – some in a matter of hours and others in a matter of weeks.

-Facts about donors
* The number one reason donors say they give blood is because they "want to help others."
* Two most common reasons cited by people who don't give blood are: "Never thought about it" and "I don't like needles."
* One donation can help save the lives of up to three people.
* If you began donating blood at age 17 and donated every 56 days until you reached 76, you would have donated 48 gallons of blood, potentially helping save more than 1,000 lives!
* Half of Red Cross donors male, and half are female.
* The American Red Cross accepts blood donations only from volunteer donors.
* Among Red Cross donors in a given year, 19 percent donate occasionally, 31 percent are first-time donors, and 50 percent are regular, loyal donors.
* Only 7 percent of people in the U.S. have O-negative blood type. O-negative blood type donors are universal donors as their blood can be given to people of all blood types.
* Type O-negative blood is needed in emergencies before the patient's blood type is known and with newborns who need blood.
* Forty-five percent of people in the U.S. have Type O (positive or negative) blood. This percentage is higher among Hispanics – 57 percent, and among African Americans – 51 percent.
* Only 3 percent of people in the U.S. have AB-positive blood type. AB-positive type blood donors are universal donors of plasma, which is often used in emergencies, for newborns and for patients requiring massive transfusions.

*POP* Dating - How to make it work!

On a recent advertisement on TV, I heard that 1 in 5 relationships now begin from online dating! I'd have to say this is probably true as many of my clients are finding themselves online anyways, so why not look for love?! Here's where what I call POP (or Pages of Pictures) dating comes about! It's rather easy to look at someone's profile on any number of dating sites, send a message and strike up some conversation. But what about when it comes to meeting?? The day in and day out situations you'll have occurring? Sometimes even after the first meeting it can be back to the pages, sometimes forgetting any prior connections and conversations that have come about before the fated meeting! But why? What was it in the first meeting that changed things from magical to splitsville? The #1 reason why POP dating first time meetings don't work? HONESTY! If one person is falsely representing themselves, within the first meeting, you'll know... and why would you want to believe anything they've said previously!? So it's back to the POP and back to trying to find the love you're wanting. So how DO you manage to find someone through POP dating?

1- Make a list of what you're really looking for... STICK TO IT!! The moment you compromise is the moment you tell the Universe that you don't think you deserve what you really want!

2- Know that just because you "know" this person online, you don't know how they react to situations on an ongoing basis. They might seem very easy going online, but once together you may see this in another light as possibly laziness?

3- Realize that *some* bragging or boasting will be part of things... EVERYONE does this!! I mean here we are trying to put our best out there for someone to say I'm picking YOU! So just how embellishments come with any other situation, expect it here as well!

4- Take things slowly once moving from online to off.. Let your energies get used to being around one another. Try not to allow things to slide back to being more online though as it'll be more important to start integrating the physical reality into things.

I'm sure, of course, that sooner or later, there might just be a little too much of the POP dating and you might want to give up! That's where I can be of help! Or any other intuitive psychic who does picture readings and/or remote viewing! If you've seen some of my readings at Read My Pic, you can see how easily a picture reading can be achieved! I have been able to help MANY of my clients find their true love through quite a few different online dating companies! Besides picture reading for potential mates, once a connection is established we can take it a step further by looking into astrological connections there may be before really moving any further. It definitely has been shown to help produce some more long lasting relationships and I've had quite a few marriages happen as well!!! So if you are finding yourself in a POP dating situation that you just can't seem to find "The One" from, I'd be more than happy to assist you in manifesting your perfect relationship!! I wish you all the best of luck in your online dating adventures, and if you'd like some help you can always feel free to contact me at Facebook or Email.

Many Blessings!!