Minding Your Words

"He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help" ~Abraham Lincoln

"If your heart acquires strength, you will be able to remove blemishes from others without thinking evil of them." ~Mohandas K. Gandhi

"He only profits from praise who values criticism." ~Heinrich Heine

Words have the power to inspire and destroy. When I was young, I quite often heard from my Grandmother; "mind your words". It's true though, sometimes I have a problem with going on and on about something. I also have a fabulous knack of just saying what's on my mind at times without really thinking about the repercussion of it. This can be a bonus or a bane!!! LOL! Positive words can empower people towards great accomplishments. And negative words can be highly destructive! But how do you know when you're being critical and when you're actually producing constructive criticism?

First, it's easy for us to intake negativity more easily than it is positivity. Why? Because that's what we're dealing with 24/7!! TV and online news is primarily focused on all that is "WRONG" in the world.. we barely get a glimpse of the few miracles and heroes before there is another story of something devastating! If you think life is horrible.. think back to a moment ago.. were you just stressing over a bill that is due? What do you think the first thing out of your mouth is going to be when you get to the mailbox and see it?! If you're Gordon Ramsey, it'd probably be something like MUTHA F#[K!N BILL!! People who deal with depression, may also find they're overly critical of themselves saying things like "I'll NEVER accomplish that" or "Sometimes I'm just stupid". Here is a simple test you can do for yourself to see if your words are falling on the NEGATIVE or POSITIVE spectrum.

Take a piece of paper and mark down these words, phrases, and/or any similar that you find yourself using. Throughout the day, place a mark when you find yourself saying one of these words.

Negative
· Useless
· Empty
· Impossible
· Ugly
· Weak
· Lonely
· Hopeless
· Loser
· Failure
· Bad person
· Stupid
· NEVER
· Lost

Positive
· Beautiful
· Hope
· THANK YOU!! (It really is under used!)
· Please (same as above!)
· Fabulous
· Awesome
· Smart thinking
· Great
· Terrific
· LOVE
· Wonderful
· You're the best!
· FUN (I think people are forgetting that word a lot!)

You might also want to make a note if you were feeling a certain way when these words came popping out of your mouth. Remember, negative words are going to be associated with feelings of despair, disappointment, anxiety, anger, guilt, and frustration. Whereas feelings of hope, happiness, accomplishment, pride, passion and love are from encouraging, positive words!

The more practice with minding your words, the easier it becomes to Mind Your Thoughts! By speaking negative words, the more you'll feel unwanted emotions. Until you remove the negative chatter from your mind, you won’t be able to lead the happy life you envision yourself in. If you're feeling depressed, lonely, or generally down on yourself. Check out what you're actually expressing aloud. You may just surprise yourself! Start using words that spread happiness and watch how the energy around you and within you starts to change!

Many Blessings!

Minding Your Thoughts - Change Your Life

“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” ~Buddha

“The ancestor of every action is a thought.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

So we're venturing into some Law of Attraction here! You can't get upset by the thoughts you find yourself having.. there's about a half dozen situations you're probably trying to sort out! That's enough to have anyone feeling overwhelmed! By realizing that you already have the answers to what's going on might just have you saying.. ummm, no, no I don't. And YES, YES YOU DO!! Because what's happening right now is directly related to a thought, and then an action, and then a reaction!

Here's an easy way to think about it. Life is going generally well, you get yourself a credit card with the thought of "I will only use it to build my credit". So you use it and pay on it regularly and have almost paid it off when a temptation comes about.. so you hmmm and haaa about it trying to rationalize the purchase. On one hand you could say to yourself "oh it's a GREAT buy and it's not that much to where I'd have a problem buying it!" OR "I know if I buy this and allow myself the pleasure of owning it I'll regret it because SOMETHING will end up being an EXTRA expense"... and guess what happens. More often than not, it's the second thought that comes up! And guess what happens! And on and on.. because once the process hits, it's tough to stop the mental pattern of "I'M NEVER GETTING OUT OF HERE!".

It IS easy to turn it around. There is no waiting period. And it works INSTANTLY! So, once that credit card bill comes in the mail.. instead of saying "great another $30 that I could've used for gas" needs to become "oh I knew this bill was due so it's a good thing I have that covered!". It's not like the bill snuck up on you from out of nowhere! And when there is something that does seem to sneek up.. well, you might have to think about that for a minute.. was the break light indicator on for a reason? Hmmm... There may be "coincidences", but honestly, nothing is truly ever what it seems at times! The synchronicity of life carries on through everything! Thought, word, action, and reaction! :)

Many Blessings!!!

Where'd your posts go?

Like I said.. it was a while between posting my last blog. I felt my blog had started lacking a lot of structure as well. That is why I pulled my posts. I will be sorting through the ones that actually are worthy of being posted and leave out the junk. I'm startin to think that maybe sometimes less, really can be more. :)

Hope everyone is enjoying their weekend!