Are YOU Clingy?!

Alrighty girlfriends... and dudes... It's soon to be summer time (if you're in the northern hemisphere, that is!) and this is usually a time when a lot of fun is to be had. But if you're being a Hoover (or maybe we should call them Dyson's these days! LOL!) in your relationship; that's to say, you're sucking the life out of your relationship by being clingy.. you could be setting yourself up for a breakup! And no one really means for this clinginess to come about.. it just happens! You're excited! You can't wait to hear from them, to see them, to BE with them. And then comes the boys' or girls' night out and you start to feel upset because they should want to spend that time with you. Or they said they'd call or text you back, but didn't...

Relationships are TOUGH work! They are not the things of fairy tales or Hollywood romances. Though they can sometimes feel that way, it's not how it'll be 100% of the time! And there's a delicate balance that has to be maintained.. Otherwise you start to become that needy, over obsessed partner that your other half starts to wonder what the hell they are seeing you for! Which then starts bringing about doubts, maybe even arguments, and possibly even a break up! So how do you keep things in check?!


#1 - You have to realize that your better half is their own person. They will think, feel, and deal with things completely differently than you will. If you happened to see my post Happily Ever After Someday, or you check it after you read this, you'll see the pain scale graphic. EVERYONE experiences things differently, whether it be pain or love! Clinginess doesn't come about from feeling unappreciated or from there being a lack of love. It comes from not being understanding, from forming an over dependency and from being insecure.

#2 - You BOTH need your own space! You have your own likes and dislikes.. or you should anyways, because if you both like 100% of everything and think the same way.. that is going to get real boring, REAL quick! Everyone needs time to themselves to de-stress and unwind from the day. Even married couples aren't all up in each other's face 24/7, and if they are, it usually isn't because they're in love! And even then, it probably still wouldn't be 24/7!

#3 - You're a jabber jaw and s/he's not.. or maybe you just are like "just let me listen to you breathe on the phone while you.. play Xbox, write your thesis, pay your bills, etc."... It's O-K if you don't have hour upon hour gab sessions EVERY DAY. Hell, it's ok if you don't even talk every day!! It doesn't mean things are done and over or s/he doesn't care! It just means there were other things that needed done in their life!! Don't take it personal.. maybe they spent 4 hours on the phone at work (if that's something that's possible) and they just don't have it in them to talk! There could be a number of things... you don't have to make it about you.

#4 - Friends get in the way... or so it seems. This is going to be a huge one for some. Maybe you don't like the friends because they aren't motivated, or maybe they're the opposite sex! Either way, the friends were there BEFORE the relationship and just because you might not like them; doesn't mean they need to drop them like hot cakes! Being demanding is NOT attractive in any way, shape, or form. And if friends come into the mix AFTER the relationship is in place, you have to TRUST that your S.O. is smart enough to make decisions on who they want in their life! If you're feeling resentful because they have a life outside of you, then you'll need to take a look at where things are at within your own life and why you're feeling that your happiness is being dependent on them being around. It's all good to have your own friends, hobbies, and just general life to live!

#5 - Insecurity creeps in!! Alas, the night out occurs and you just KNOW a hookup is going to happen. Really?! If you have that little trust in this person, you might really want to consider WHY you are with them in the first place. Let's just say in a reverse situation that YOU'RE the one that out and all of a sudden this SUPER HOT cutie is striking up a conversation and you know their hitting on you... well, of course you could take them up on the offer. But you're happy in your relationship and you're able to keep the conversation while saying in your head, or maybe even saying, NO THANKS I'M TAKEN. Again, it's about trust. Just because you're talking to the opposite sex doesn't mean you're going to hop into bed with them!

#6 - Did we DTR?!? That is to say you are NOT just dating and it is a full fledged relationship! You don't have to ask if you're the S.O., you KNOW it. And don't get me wrong, it doesn't mean you sat down and said "oh so we're boyfriend/girlfriend now, right?". Sometimes it goes that way and sometimes it doesn't. But if you have to question it, then it's usually a safer assumption to step back and take the "dating" route rather than it being something serious. If you really want to know, then open up and communicate.. but that doesn't give you the option to get upset either if you thought things were serious and they thought things were casual. Dating doesn't mean that it's fair game though either and y'all can just go around being casual with everybody and anybody. Boundaries still need to be established... in this day and age STDs are a serious matter! You BOTH need to be responsible and be able to communicate what it is you're wanting from the relationship... no matter what stage it is in!

#7 - OMG it IS a relationship! YEA! So for the sake of this time line.. it is an actual relationship that's been defined and you're out of the dating phase of it.. that doesn't mean there's a ring on it yet. And really, even if there was a ring on it, that doesn't mean it'll be there forever either. OMG I hope I didn't freak y'all out with that one! But it is the truth. And for most guys, and some women, something like that graphic would make them run for the hills!! But being overly affectionate can be just as hard to handle for some. Because they can question why you are trying too hard, or they may even wonder if the effort they are going to be able to give to the relationship is enough! As I said way back in the beginning of this post... relationships take work.. whether you're 1 week into it or 10 years into it!

And though the pic is rather funny and MOST people (obviously there was one!) wouldn't consider something like that.. I have to say that one of the main reasons I posted this blog in the first place was because I had a smattering of sessions today that had distinct undertones of this very clinginess I've been talking about with this post! I thought it might be more important to share this before it becomes more apparent as summer approaches and these sorts relationships require some rescuing! So to summarize and to really make your relationship the most awesome-ist it can be...

*YOU are awesome! KNOW it, BE it! *Everyone is their own self! Be independent and understanding! *Appreciate the time you have together.. DON'T demand the time. *Don't try to overcompensate by giving too much! Maintain a balance of give and take. *TRUST and COMMUNICATE!


So.. I think I was able to cover everything in there on how NOT to be clingy! But I might not have.. Seriously, I have scribbles all over a notepad of things I was channeling today that it will probably take weeks to totally organize! But at least this is a good start!

But if you're still wondering where things stand within your relationship and you would like me to take a look at things for you, feel free to send me a message at my facebook page or my email and I'll be glad to help!

Be on the lookout for Tarotscopes! ;)
Andi

Being Wrong.. Is Alright!

After I finished my readings last night and wanted to relax, I decided to zone into some TED videos and stumbled upon this little gem. And honestly it's been a while since I blogged something other than Tarotscopes so I was glad to have gotten some more inspiration for this blog!

Now you may be saying "Uh oh, Andi was wrong about something.", which I haven't been lately... but it DOES happen on occasion! In fact, after watching this video I had that feeling of "hmmmm, I've been pretty dead on with things lately, hope I don't stumble soon!". And then I had to backup for a minute. Because that's the whole theme of this video!!! That it's OK to be wrong. It's what makes us human. And that's exactly my point. I am human just like everyone else. I'm going to be wrong sometimes. And like the video says; we've become accustomed to demanding nothing but the best in our lives... for complete perfection, and if we end up with anything less, than somehow we have failed or done things wrong.

But that's not the case! We can strive for the best that we want to achieve, but that doesn't necessarily mean we'll reach it for any number of reasons. We can be too caught up in how we perceive things, and by "we" I mean me or you. The WE should be more of an I. Because your perception of one situation will be different that the perception of someone else. What may be absolutely devastating to you could be a minor speed bump to someone else. A lot of the time I will be asked "Should I move on?". And my answer is always the same.. "I can't tell you to move on. That is going to be your choice in how and what you can deal with in the situation.". Everyone has different levels of how they are going to handle things. Everyone has different emotions and reactions. That's to say that my "wrong" could be someone else's "right".

We've become too hard on ourselves and on others. When people don't meet our expectations (or demands!) we feel they are wrong. We feel we've been wrong to trust them!! But it doesn't mean that we or they have been wrong at all! Just that our perception wasn't what we were expecting! So that just means that we have to readjust and keep moving forward. Because life doesn't stop just because something has created a roadblock, it just means there's been a detour. It doesn't mean things are right or wrong. It just means IT JUST IS.

Of course, this was just my perception and yours may be different! So I encourage you to watch the video, it's a little under 18 minutes so it won't take much time! And please leave me some comments about what you think!

Have an awesome day!
Andi

Happily Ever After Someday

First off I have to say that I am NOT a licensed psychologist, but I most certainly deal with relationship issues on a daily basis! So when I was scrolling through my facebook feed I saw Romantic Comedies Are Ruining Your Relationship and thought I should give it a read considering romcoms are one of my favorite genres!

What had me frustrated with this article was how it said these movies "bear no resemblance to genuine human interaction." Well, quite frankly, that's not the truth.. because aren't most movies/tv shows based on personal experiences from the writers point of view? Granted it is the same recycled story over and over by this time, but there IS some truth to be had from them. I'm sure I can think of any number of stories from shows that fit into my friends or families relationships! My husband and I just watched What To Expect When You're Expecting the other day and I guess that fits into a romcom! Seeing that we just had our 4th baby in June, the days of pregnancy are not all that far behind us and we laughed at the situations in the movie we just recently had dealt with. My husband and I have been together for almost 18 years and it hasn't been all fairy tale fun.. hell, even the D word has come up in the past! But ALL relationships take work! And it's exceptionally important to remember that everyone is going to have their own feelings. No one is going to feel EXACTLY the same, and certainly not at the same time, for the same reasons!

Don't get me wrong, there were some poignant parts in the article as well.. especially that people don't change unless they really want to. But that doesn't necessarily just apply in the relationship realm! And another GREAT article I read a few days ago called 16 Ways I Blew My Marriage came from a man's perspective, definitely shows how men and women can process things differently!! What one person considers cheating, another may not. Even what one person considers putting in effort, another might think they're slacking! There's a reason why doctors use a pain scale.. so it's obviously NOT the one that I chose for my graphic! LOL! But y'all know me to have a sense of humor! But one person's 5 is another person's 10! Kinda along the lines of beauty being in the eye of the beholder!

So.. do I think any man or woman should "wait around" for their love to come around? Absolutely not! But that doesn't mean to cut them off at the knees either!! It's all in what you would feel is right or wrong for yourself. And NO ONE can or should make those sorts of life changing decisions for you!

Of course, this is just my opinions on things! But in my own experiences in my relationships and marriage and the experiences I have with my clients.. I will say that love CAN conquer all! As I finish up writing this blog I'm watching Once Upon a Time.. coincidence; not a chance!

And as always, if you’d like a reading or you just want to get to know me more, you can send me a message at facebook or my email!

Hope everyone had a great weekend!

Many Blessings!!!!
Andi

It's All About Timing: Time frames in Readings

Well... I have been working on some posts lately, but with coming into my last month of pregnancy with the dr. appointments and all the family  birthdays; things have been pretty delayed... a lot. I even forgot to post the link to my lovescopes at Liveperson! Ohhhh delays, don't we love them! Which brings us to this whole blog post!!!!

Lately it seems that clients have been a little confused as to how timing/time frames work within a reading. So I thought I would take a moment to clear some things up!!

A lot of the time during a reading, the question of "WHEN?" comes up... When will I get my promotion? When will I move? When will s/he call? When will we be together?

One thing that is incredibly important to realize is that absolutely NOTHING is written in stone. Every little step leads to the next and so on and so on.. but whether there's just a pause on the path or a complete deviation, either one will have an effect on the timing of things. When timing is looked into, it is according to what is happening at the time of the reading! That is why a good number of readers won't even touch timing!! There can just be too many variables. So if you are finding a psychic/tarot reader/astrologer who will give you timing know that they are expecting you to understand this and to not feel as though if they say "around the end of the month", that the actual end of the month is some sort of cut off!!! There can still be some give within the timing and wouldn't you feel horrible to be frustrated that the end of the month has come and gone and now it is the 2nd or 3rd day of the new month and the prediction they gave you has now come about and here you were cursing up a storm at how they were wrong and no good?!?

Everyone is going to work differently when it comes to timing or time frames. The way in that my guides show me many of my time frames is through a calendar which becomes illuminated by what can be a specific day (especially with my long standing clients where our energy is connected great!) or a couple days, or maybe even a whole week. It is just the way that we have come to work things out! In the beginning it may have been a number or a month, but after years and years of working with them, we've been able to really come down with a system that seems to be pretty darn accurate! Now granted, that's not to say that I don't get timing wrong! It's gonna happen.. NO ONE is 100%! And it's important to remember that YOU take a proactive approach with things as well... this is YOUR life!

Now you don't want to hold on to the timing so much that the prediction is prevented from actually happening! When you want something so badly, you can actually create a delay or alter it completely!! The same is true if you get a prediction and act AHEAD of the time frame that is given! That of course is DEFINITELY going to end up altering things!! Like let's say Michelle wants to know when her ex John is going to call and a time frame of "in about 2 weeks" comes about. Michelle decides that she's tired of waiting and gives John a call 5 days later... things would completely end up changing since she took matters into her own hands! Or lets say that during this 2 week stretch the whole time Michelle has a feeling of dread and "he's not going to call" plays over and over... this also can alter things as thoughts manifest into the physical and have then created a block to where he DOESN'T end up calling! Another thing to remember is that there will be an entirely other energy that is involved as well.. and they'll have their own thoughts, feelings, actions, reactions and everything else going on in their own life as well. Maybe John suddenly got called out of town for work because something came about from ANOTHER person that had a problem and he's the only one to take care of it! Of course Michelle is going to end up frustrated that things didn't end up coming to pass! But the thing of it is, we can only see so many things within life and it's always ebbing and flowing like the tides!

So, to recap.. timing is not 100%. Actually NO prediction of any sort can be 100%. But is anything in life 100%?! Definitely not... if it were, we'd all have some pretty darn boring lives!!! Believe me.. I sure didn't see this 4th kiddo popping into the picture! Definitely one that came out of left field for me! LOL! But anyways.. when you have a question with timing, just make sure that you understand that there isn't a precise science down with it and things can and will change. But hey, change can be good if you let it be... and isn't a change what you're looking for in the first place when you're asking a question of "When?"! ;)

I hope this helps clients as well as readers that might not be sure how to explain to their clients how timing works! And as always, if you’d like a reading so I can take a look at things more in depth, you can send me a message at facebook or my email!

Hope everyone had a great weekend!

Many Blessings!!!!
Andi

No Target, it's NOT ok to judge!

The last few days I've noticed the Universe giving me a couple little signals... a few work mates and friends first were discussing some words that we have banned. Words that came up included the "f" word, and no not f*ck.. which I have NO problems tossing around at times! Also, the "n" word; which I really can not stand and the "r" word, that I've had problems at times with it rolling off my tongue but have definitely made a conscious effort to not use it considering I have a special needs kid!

So imagine my surprise today when I was doing some shopping online today at Target and was told "It's ok to judge". I took a quick screenshot of it! I sat for a moment just thinking about it. And then I started to get mad! And not because I don't think that there shouldn't be some sort of measurable standards at times. I mean c'mon The Biggest Loser obviously is measuring a health standard and they are being "judged", just as many other reality tv shows like Dancing with the Stars or American Idol! But there's a time and place for judgments to be made. Unfortunately it seems like people make too many judgments without any justification! It's bad enough that we make judgments about ourselves; not pretty enough or smart enough or rich enough. But when we start to put these judgments on others, we're only projecting our own insecurities.

I happened to catch Dr. Phil today which was all about bullying. October is National Bullying Prevention Awareness Month. It was very much about passing judgments and the bullies own insecurities! There was also a great organization featured as well; Stomp Out Bullying. And while I didn't agree with everything that was being said, the main idea was what was important. There's no reason to judge anyone, EVER! Because *hopefully* everyone is doing the best that they can. So Target, how about instead of "it's ok to judge" we go with "it's about choice".  But oh wait, wasn't there some problem about gay equality with Target?!? Maybe we'll save that for another post! ;)

So, as in my other posts Minding Your Words and Minding Your Thoughts it's just important to remember that we're all in this together and the interactions we bring to one another are equally needed as much as the progress we make on ourselves!

Namaste!!

Asking for Help.. it's not that difficult!

Golly gee it's been a while since I've managed to make a post on my blog! But sometimes life just becomes a little complicated... As some of you may or may not know, I recently moved back to Florida AND I had my third child, Soren, in June! Something had to give and thus the blog went on the back burner! When you're a *new* mom you tend to put a lot of focus into being SUPER mom... everything needs to go exactly how you think it will! But this also happens at many other times in someones life as well. You strive to push yourself to the limits to meet whatever expectations you think you need to attain. And sooner or later you'll hit a wall if you think you can do it alone!!

Of course though asking for help can take a hit to your pride. It's not always the easiest to admit when something becomes a little too much to handle on your own! And whether you'd like to admit it or not, we all have someone that's got our back in times of need. When you open yourself up into letting someone else take the reins, it might feel as though you're giving over a sense of control. This really isn't the case though as opening up in this way brings about a deeper sense of trust! "We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy." ~Walter Anderson 

It's really that trust that allows you to see how much you're cared for and lets you view things from another perspective! Sometimes it's tough to realize that you can't do it all OR know it all! And at the same time it's those weaknesses that make you all the more human. NO ONE has the "perfect" life.. as much as they might like you to think that! I think that's part of why my clients find me so relatable... my ego doesn't get in the way! I'm able to see that no matter what, we're all just doing the best that we're able to do with the resources we're given at any particular time! Sometimes it'll just take us a little longer to ask for that helping hand because we think we're able to keep pushing ourselves to grin and bear it. I know I do it a lot of the time!! But none of us has to suffer in silence... there's always someone that will help us see the light at the end of the tunnel if we're just willing to let them in!

If you're feeling like you need to look at things from a different perspective, I'd be more than happy to take a look at your situation for you! You can send me an email, IM me through any major IM client (YIM, AIM, MSN, etc.) at psychicandi, or contact me at facebook, Liveperson, Keen, or Bitwine! And on another note.. Definitely keep your eyes peeled for some new content that will be making it's way onto the blog now that I've been able to get more of a routine down! I hope everyone that has been keeping up with me and the new readers have been enjoying your summer!!!

Many Blessings!

What You Do, You Be! Do-be-do-be-do!

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude." ~Maya Angelou

"Things do not change; we change." ~Henry David Thoreau

"Courage is being afraid but going on anyhow." ~Dan Rather

I was thinking to myself earlier, this seems to happen on occasion! ;) And if you've read my earlier posts Minding Your Thoughts or Minding Your Words, you'll see this one follows along the same lines! Anyways.. It's sometimes easy for us to get caught up in the monotonous feelings that can be there. I mean, sure.. who doesn't want to be happy all the time for the most part?! And usually we're pretty happy with the way life is going, but then there's always something that gives us a little "what if"? What if I decided to quit my job and pursue my hobby as a career? What if I took the jump of singing in front of people? But if you don't take the chance, you would never know the opportunity. Because the opportunity is there... they'll always come around. But what you do, is what you'll be...

And this works in a lot of ways! It's the same with what you say. If you're always complaining and it's coming out of your mouth; it's coming out, because you've already thought it, it's been processed. Uh-oh. And now you're feeling like you've got a big 'ol F! So then you're grumpy throughout the day. It's what you're doing is what is going to determine what you'll BE doing while you continue down the path. What you say is what you think and what you think is what you'll do and what you do is what you'll be... see the cycle? Too many times we stand in our own way! It is easy to make excuses for why we do this as we'll rationalize it out to where it becomes acceptable to what we think and feel. But then after a while we are upset at ourselves for letting the time pass by! There needs to still be the understanding and acceptance that things happen for a reason.. whether or not we decide to take that leap. But the opportunities that present themselves are there for the taking. It is only up to us to make the decision on what we want to DO, for what the future will BE!

Here is a great meditation to help with mental clarity and allowing for new experiences!

Items Needed; 1 blue candle, 1 orange candle, 1 white candle.. place in a triangle with the white candle at top, blue to the left side and orange to the right.

If possible, make an essential oil blend with the following; 4 drops of Lemongrass, 2 drops of Bay, 1 drop of Basil, 1 drop Ginger, 1 drop of Nutmeg; anoint your third eye before beginning meditation.

Begin by sitting and gazing at the candle light. Watch as the candle flames dance and flicker. See the energy within the flame as golden energy as each day begins the blazing sun crests the horizon. Feel how that energy is a new beginning and eternal as it is there for you to take at any time, every day. Either continue to sit upright or lie down in a comfortable position. Take a few deep breaths in and let them out and begin to steady your breath. As you begin to slip into a light meditative state, let yourself feel light and airy... visualize yourself laying on a BIG, WHITE, FLUFFY cloud.. feel how soft and relaxing and carefree it has you feeling. Sail through the sky and enjoy the relaxation it brings. When you are ready, feel the cloud bring you to a clearing on the top of a mountain. There is a lush meadow filled with many wildflowers. Step off the cloud and walk through the meadow to a giant tree. The only tree that you can see. Feel it's strength in the adversity of being on this mountain by it's lonesome. You notice there is a desk with a journal on it under the tree. You see this journal containing thoughts on situations you've wondered about being different. As you sit reading though them, you realize that some are things you no longer wanting to worry about.. mark in the journal underneath the entry how you are done worrying of this and move on to the next. There will be some you won't be able to go through at this time and that is ok. Then you will notice the blank pages that are still there. Now is the time to journal what you are feeling of your "WHAT IF"... After you are done, re-read the journal entries you may want to revisit and also your WHAT IF entry. Close the journal knowing you are going to work on what it is you want to be so as not to have that feeling you didn't try. Climb back on the cloud and let it take you through the sky and back to the beginning of where you first found it. Let your body adjust to coming more into the physical. And slowly open your eyes.

When you come out of this meditation you should feel relaxed, but SUPER motivated and released of any failing negative feelings!! :)

If you have any questions on how you can connect with your soul's purpose, you can send me a message at my email or at facebook and feel free to leave comments as well!

Namaste!

What's Your Bloody Type?!?

You might look at the title and then this picture and go WHHHAAAT?! But really, I'm going to discuss something that everyone has and could be exceptionally important at times as well. BLOOD! After the last episode of True Blood, I got interested in looking up some things about blood types, but thankfully I have Japanese relatives and have quite a bit of information on this topic! Knowing your blood type is important if you travel, because heaven forbid there be an accident and a transfusion be needed and you are in an area where your blood type is scarce!

In the 1930's Takeji Furukawa set out to find a connection between personality traits being influenced by blood type. These days, approximately 90% of Japanese know their blood type and read their horoscopes by blood types rather than the traditional astrological signs! Blood typing has also been used for employers when interviewing and also in keeping office harmony, in matchmaking for potential love matches and even companies for marketing their products! Recently the books Eat Right 4 Your Type and Cook Right 4 Your Type have had many people wanting to make dietary changes that are directly related to their blood types! I highly recommend these books as I have found them to be very helpful with some of the problems related to dietary issues! BUT, we're here to talk about personalities! Now... if you don't know your blood type, the easiest way to find out is to donate blood! Not only will you be doing a VERY valuable service, but you will find your blood type out rather easily too! One thing to remember is there is no differential factor with the Rh type (positive/negative). So.. here we go with the blood types!

Type O:
Type O's tend to be loners OR leaders and are intuitive, focused, self-reliant and sometimes daring. They are initiators, although they don't always finish what they start! They handle stress better than the other blood types and have a healthy, active nature. Creative and popular, they love to be the center of attention and appear very self confident.

Positive qualities: Ambitious, Trendsetter, Independent, Loyal, Athletic, Robust, Passionate and Self-confident.
Negative qualities: Arrogant, Vain, Jealous, Insensitive and Ruthless.

Famous O's: Oprah Winfrey, Stella McCartney, Ronald Reagan, Queen Elizabeth II, John Lennon, Paul Newman, Elvis Presley, Gerald Ford, Mikhail Gorbachev, Al Capone.

Compatibility: O is most compatible with O, and AB

Type A:
While outwardly calm, they have high standards that they often bottle up their anxiety in order to get along with others, they may hold in their emotions until they explode. They are capable of leadership positions, but they may not take them because the stress is too much to handle. In Japan many A's are in research facilities taking roles in discovering more about science, economics, manufacturing, etc. They are perfectionists to say the least!! Type A's are also the most artistic of the blood groups.

Positive qualities: Reserved, Cooperative, Patient, Sensitive, Clever, Responsible and Punctual.
Negative qualities: Obsessive, Stubborn, Conservative and Tense.

Famous A's: George H. W. Bush, O.J. Simpson, Britney Spears, Ringo Starr, Adolf Hitler, Lyndon B. Johnson, Richard Nixon, Jet Li.

Compatibility: A is most compatible with A and AB

Type B:
Goal oriented and strong minded, type B's will start a task and see it through until completed, and completed well! Type B's are the individualists of the blood group categories and find their own way in life. These individuals tend to be balanced: thoughtful like A's, yet ambitious like O's. They are empathetic, easily understanding others' points of view, yet often hesitant to challenge or confront. Chameleon-like and flexible, they make good friends and are fiercely loyal.

Positive qualities: Creative, Passionate, Strong, Animal loving, Optimistic and Flexible.
Negative qualities: Wild, Unsociable, Critical, Indecisive, Unpredictable and Unforgiving.

Famous B's: Jack Nicholson, Luciano Pavarotti, Tom Selleck, Mia Farrow, Paul McCartney, Leonardo DiCaprio.

Compatibility: B is most compatible with B and AB

Type AB:
Type AB's are the split personalities of the blood groups! They can be both outgoing and shy, confident and timid, but they also tend to be very charming and popular. While responsible, too much responsibility will cause a problem. They don't sweat the small stuff, but once a problem hits they feel as though it is their own doing. Type AB's can be seen as spiritual and even at times a bit "flaky". They are trustworthy and like to help others. There is never a dull moment in a AB's life, so if you find one for a friend, consider yourself lucky! You'll definitely enjoy some exciting times together! Only about 2 - 5% of the population are blood type AB!

Positive qualities: Popular, Sociable, Cool and Controlled.
Negative qualities: Forgetful, Critical, Indecisive, Irresponsible and Self-centered.

Famous AB's: Barack Obama, John F. Kennedy, Marilyn Monroe, Mick Jagger, Thomas Edison, Jackie Chan.

Compatibility: AB is most compatible with AB, B, A and O, or basically everyone!!

PLEASE... if you can donate blood, DO IT! 

Here is some brief information on blood donation from the American Red Cross website.

-Facts about blood needs
* Every two seconds someone in the U.S. needs blood.
* More than 38,000 blood donations are needed every day.
* A total of 30 million blood components are transfused each year in the U.S. (2006).
* The average red blood cell transfusion is approximately 3 pints.
* The blood type most often requested by hospitals is Type O.
* The blood used in an emergency is already on the shelves before the event occurs.
* Sickle cell disease affects more than 80,000 people in the U.S., 98 percent of whom are African American. Sickle cell patients can require frequent blood transfusions throughout their lives.
* More than 1 million new people are diagnosed with cancer each year. Many of them will need blood, sometimes daily, during their chemotherapy treatment.
* A single car accident victim can require as many as 100 pints of blood.

-Facts about blood supply
* The number of blood donations collected in the U.S. in a year: 16 million (2006).
* The number of blood donors in the U.S. in a year: 9.5 million (2006).
* The number of patients who receive blood in the U.S. in a year: 5 million (2006).
* Share of the U.S. population eligible to give blood: Less than 38 percent.
* Blood cannot be manufactured – it can only come from generous donors.
* Type O-negative blood (red cells) can be transfused to patients of all blood types. It is always in great demand and often in short supply.
* Type AB-positive plasma can be transfused to patients of all other blood types. AB plasma is also usually in short supply.

-Facts about the blood donation process
* Donating blood is a safe process. A sterile needle is used only once for each donor and then discarded.
* Blood donation is a simple four-step process: registration, medical history and mini-physical, donation and refreshments.
* Every blood donor is given a mini-physical, checking the donor's temperature, blood pressure, pulse and hemoglobin to ensure it is safe for the donor to give blood.
* The actual blood donation typically takes less than 10-12 minutes. The entire process, from the time you arrive to the time you leave, takes about an hour and 15 min.
* The average adult has about 10 pints of blood in his body. Roughly 1 pint is given during a donation.
* A healthy donor may donate red blood cells every 56 days, or double red cells every 112 days.
* A healthy donor may donate platelets as few as 7 days apart, but a maximum of 24 times a year.
* All donated blood is tested for HIV, hepatitis B and C, syphilis and other infectious diseases before it can be released to hospitals.
* Information you give to the American Red Cross during the donation process is confidential. It may not be released without your permission except as directed by law.

-Facts about blood and its components
* There are four types of transfusable products that can be derived from blood: red cells, platelets, plasma and cryoprecipitate. Typically, two or three of these are produced from a pint of donated whole blood – hence each donation can help save up to three lives.
* Donors can give either whole blood or specific blood components only. The process of donating specific blood components – red cells, plasma or platelets – is called apheresis.
* One transfusion dose of platelets can be obtained through one apheresis donation of platelets or by combining the platelets derived from five whole blood donations.
* Most donated red blood cells must be used within 42 days of collection.
* Donated platelets must be used within five days of collection – new donations are constantly needed.
* Plasma and cryoprecipitate are stored in frozen state and can be used for up to one year after collection.
* Healthy bone marrow makes a constant supply of red cells, plasma and platelets. The body will replenish the elements given during a blood donation – some in a matter of hours and others in a matter of weeks.

-Facts about donors
* The number one reason donors say they give blood is because they "want to help others."
* Two most common reasons cited by people who don't give blood are: "Never thought about it" and "I don't like needles."
* One donation can help save the lives of up to three people.
* If you began donating blood at age 17 and donated every 56 days until you reached 76, you would have donated 48 gallons of blood, potentially helping save more than 1,000 lives!
* Half of Red Cross donors male, and half are female.
* The American Red Cross accepts blood donations only from volunteer donors.
* Among Red Cross donors in a given year, 19 percent donate occasionally, 31 percent are first-time donors, and 50 percent are regular, loyal donors.
* Only 7 percent of people in the U.S. have O-negative blood type. O-negative blood type donors are universal donors as their blood can be given to people of all blood types.
* Type O-negative blood is needed in emergencies before the patient's blood type is known and with newborns who need blood.
* Forty-five percent of people in the U.S. have Type O (positive or negative) blood. This percentage is higher among Hispanics – 57 percent, and among African Americans – 51 percent.
* Only 3 percent of people in the U.S. have AB-positive blood type. AB-positive type blood donors are universal donors of plasma, which is often used in emergencies, for newborns and for patients requiring massive transfusions.

Minding Your Words

"He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help" ~Abraham Lincoln

"If your heart acquires strength, you will be able to remove blemishes from others without thinking evil of them." ~Mohandas K. Gandhi

"He only profits from praise who values criticism." ~Heinrich Heine

Words have the power to inspire and destroy. When I was young, I quite often heard from my Grandmother; "mind your words". It's true though, sometimes I have a problem with going on and on about something. I also have a fabulous knack of just saying what's on my mind at times without really thinking about the repercussion of it. This can be a bonus or a bane!!! LOL! Positive words can empower people towards great accomplishments. And negative words can be highly destructive! But how do you know when you're being critical and when you're actually producing constructive criticism?

First, it's easy for us to intake negativity more easily than it is positivity. Why? Because that's what we're dealing with 24/7!! TV and online news is primarily focused on all that is "WRONG" in the world.. we barely get a glimpse of the few miracles and heroes before there is another story of something devastating! If you think life is horrible.. think back to a moment ago.. were you just stressing over a bill that is due? What do you think the first thing out of your mouth is going to be when you get to the mailbox and see it?! If you're Gordon Ramsey, it'd probably be something like MUTHA F#[K!N BILL!! People who deal with depression, may also find they're overly critical of themselves saying things like "I'll NEVER accomplish that" or "Sometimes I'm just stupid". Here is a simple test you can do for yourself to see if your words are falling on the NEGATIVE or POSITIVE spectrum.

Take a piece of paper and mark down these words, phrases, and/or any similar that you find yourself using. Throughout the day, place a mark when you find yourself saying one of these words.

Negative
· Useless
· Empty
· Impossible
· Ugly
· Weak
· Lonely
· Hopeless
· Loser
· Failure
· Bad person
· Stupid
· NEVER
· Lost

Positive
· Beautiful
· Hope
· THANK YOU!! (It really is under used!)
· Please (same as above!)
· Fabulous
· Awesome
· Smart thinking
· Great
· Terrific
· LOVE
· Wonderful
· You're the best!
· FUN (I think people are forgetting that word a lot!)

You might also want to make a note if you were feeling a certain way when these words came popping out of your mouth. Remember, negative words are going to be associated with feelings of despair, disappointment, anxiety, anger, guilt, and frustration. Whereas feelings of hope, happiness, accomplishment, pride, passion and love are from encouraging, positive words!

The more practice with minding your words, the easier it becomes to Mind Your Thoughts! By speaking negative words, the more you'll feel unwanted emotions. Until you remove the negative chatter from your mind, you won’t be able to lead the happy life you envision yourself in. If you're feeling depressed, lonely, or generally down on yourself. Check out what you're actually expressing aloud. You may just surprise yourself! Start using words that spread happiness and watch how the energy around you and within you starts to change!

Many Blessings!

Minding Your Thoughts - Change Your Life

“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” ~Buddha

“The ancestor of every action is a thought.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

So we're venturing into some Law of Attraction here! You can't get upset by the thoughts you find yourself having.. there's about a half dozen situations you're probably trying to sort out! That's enough to have anyone feeling overwhelmed! By realizing that you already have the answers to what's going on might just have you saying.. ummm, no, no I don't. And YES, YES YOU DO!! Because what's happening right now is directly related to a thought, and then an action, and then a reaction!

Here's an easy way to think about it. Life is going generally well, you get yourself a credit card with the thought of "I will only use it to build my credit". So you use it and pay on it regularly and have almost paid it off when a temptation comes about.. so you hmmm and haaa about it trying to rationalize the purchase. On one hand you could say to yourself "oh it's a GREAT buy and it's not that much to where I'd have a problem buying it!" OR "I know if I buy this and allow myself the pleasure of owning it I'll regret it because SOMETHING will end up being an EXTRA expense"... and guess what happens. More often than not, it's the second thought that comes up! And guess what happens! And on and on.. because once the process hits, it's tough to stop the mental pattern of "I'M NEVER GETTING OUT OF HERE!".

It IS easy to turn it around. There is no waiting period. And it works INSTANTLY! So, once that credit card bill comes in the mail.. instead of saying "great another $30 that I could've used for gas" needs to become "oh I knew this bill was due so it's a good thing I have that covered!". It's not like the bill snuck up on you from out of nowhere! And when there is something that does seem to sneek up.. well, you might have to think about that for a minute.. was the break light indicator on for a reason? Hmmm... There may be "coincidences", but honestly, nothing is truly ever what it seems at times! The synchronicity of life carries on through everything! Thought, word, action, and reaction! :)

Many Blessings!!!

June 26th 2010 Full Moon Eclipse - Make it Count!

We're blessed with a Partial Lunar Eclipse on June 26th, 2010 at around 7:38am EST. This eclipse will be at 4-4½ degrees in Capricorn/Cancer with the moon conjunct Pluto. We can expect structural changes and truths to be revealed. This may also be due to the strength of the cardinal grand cross that is not fully finished yet. With this eclipse, those with prevalent cardinal influences in their chart, the signs of Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn; in the early signs will experience these energies more strongly.

Women may be more strongly effected as well as we feel the moon's emotional pull to the sun's active response energy. Feelings may be difficult to understand properly. Though a feeling of achieving emotional stability will be heavily pursued as well!

The Full Moon is always a time of personal fulfillment and soon brings us through the cycle of exploring new thoughtfulness. With a Capricorn moon, we dig our heels into our goals to make the reality we want to achieve possible!!

During this time you may want to work on some personal goals! I am also available for performing spellwork at this time. If you would like a spell performed, you can contact me at my email or at facebook. Alternately, you may want to have an astrological chart done at this time too to see what sort of influences may be coming up for you in the next couple of months! Take a look at my services page!

At this time of the eclipse you may want to do a simple candle spell. Here is what you will need.

• 1 white candle, 1 black candle

• Piece of paper

• Green marker for financial matters

• Pink marker for love matters

• Blue marker for health/healing matters

• Black marker for emotional matters

• Orange marker for creativity/mind matters

• Purple marker for spirituality/psychic matters

• 1 sage stick (optional)

Light your black candle, and gaze at it for a moment or two. Then close your eyes and take a few deep breaths and think about all the things that are dragging you down, making you generally unhappy.. you know all the BLAH stuff! Take all of it and just put it in a big, ugly, black trash bag. Make sure it's ALL in there.. you don't want to leave anything behind!! Tie it up good and tight! You might even notice that it's trying to open back up, but don't let it. You don't need to let any of that stuff interfere anymore. Once you're sure you've put all your garbage in it's place. Take in one HUGE deep breath, hold it for 5 counts and then let it all out at once in a BIG "HAAAAAAA" sound. Now snuff out the candle and sit in the quiet stillness for a moment.

Light your white candle, and gaze at it for a moment or two again. If you have a sage stick, light it now and let the smoke swirl around you, cleansing your energy. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and think about all the things you are achieving in your life! See how easily what you are working towards comes to you without any struggle or strife! It is just so simple how you thought at first where things were troubling are now working out exactly how you had planned! Keep these pleasant thoughts going until you have worked your energy to an ecstatic feeling of happiness. Now you will want to write down your affirmations!

Here is one for love: I am creating the relationship I am meant to have! The more I appreciate the attention I receive from others, the more I will open myself up to the feelings of love!

Here is one for career: I am living the path I have made for myself! I will continue to work towards creating the contacts I want to create the prosperity I desire!

And one for health: I am treating my body as a living being. I will give it the care and nurturing that it needs to further make healthier choices in my life!

For emotional stability: I am allowing my emotions to become balanced. I will give options to myself for feeling situations in another way. I will remain calm in times of stress and be joyous of the times of relaxation!

For creativity: I am bursting with creative expression! I can't contain the emotions of electrifying energy that is flowing from every (... insert word for a writer, paint stroke for painters, seam and hem for seamstress, etc..)! My creations are a direct expression of my love for life!

Take a few moments after you are done writing your affirmations and really AFFIRM them! Say them aloud a few times until the sound of your voice is reverberating within. You will know when you truly are feeling the magick being made! Once you are done, extinguish your white candle. Take the black one and bury it or put it in a trashcan outside. Do NOT leave it in your house! The white one you can light at any time during the next few weeks to further "up" your manifesting.

I wish you a happy Full Moon Eclipse!!!
Many Blessings!!!

Ask Andi Witchy Wednesday

Phew! A week has gone by pretty fast! I have been working on some more blog posts though so they can be expected shortly! But, as I've said.. Wednesday's are going to be devoted to answering questions. I'm going to try to stick to that! This week's is a good one!! :)

Hi Andi!
I've been working on my psychic abilities for the last 2 years. Things have been GREAT and I've learned so much about myself, my family, friends, and just life. But now things have done a 180 and I feel like I'm getting absolutely NOTHING from them! Like POOF they're all just gone!! My angels and guides are quiet. I can't seem to read my tarot anymore. My crystals just feel blah. WHAT IS GOING ON?! My life feels like it's a total mess now and nothing makes sense! Please help!!

Blessed Be!
Kelley

Hey there Kelley! You've fallen into a "trap"!! LOL! Your abilities haven't gone anywhere. But the Universe may be telling you that you need to trust in yourself more and NOT THE TOOLS! This can happen with me too if I try to read my Tarot on something I really already know the answer to.. and all the while my guides say "DUH, you already KNOW the answer!!". Take a step back and re-assess things. ARE they really gone or are you trying to get an answer that you WANT rather than what you know to be true? Are you trying to get an answer because you just want an instant answer without having to do the work you know is involved?

You're saying your life isn't making sense, but I'm guessing that isn't just with your abilities at this time. It would be nice if we all got a manual with step 1, 2, 3 of our life's direction, but then it really wouldn't be much of an experience!! Take some time away from the tools and start from scratch when you first started learning to TRUST YOUR INTUITION! Everything else will start falling into place again when you STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF! :)

This is true for everyone.. even those who think they have no psychic abilities. Because really, we're all born with these qualities within us. I wake up with a mantra every day... I will be the best intuitive psychic that I can be and will help as many people as I can throughout my day!!

Many Blessings!!!! (and keep sending those questions!)

It IS the music that we choose!

I have always loved music! All types of music, in all different languages! Music can convey all the emotions we go through in our daily lives. Artists are known to pour all their emotions; whether they be happiness or sadness, into their music. And that music can leave you singing "all you need is love" or "before he cheats". I know that my high school days of breaking up usually was spent with a week listening to The Cure in my headphones, some ice cream, and my journal. When I got more into the rave scene; the music is what brought us together and developed the PLUR (Peace, Love, Unity, Respect) feeling! Generally I still gravitate towards this music!! I'm a little bit of a procrastinator at times and generally a little laid back, so I can use the beats!!! I'm sure many of us remember the feeling of giving someone a mix tape.. or maybe cd, these days! But we always picked the songs so carefully, making sure that we put the most perfect songs on it! Most important days can usually be remembered in many ways and music seems to make it's way into those days!

When we listen to music it can affect us in many ways depending on the type of music! Music with a strong repetitive beat can focus concentration and energize us, while a slower tempo brings about a more peaceful, meditative state. The change in brain wave activity also helps the brain to function more properly. With brainwaves changing, other bodily functions naturally respond as well with breathing and heart rate. With these few changes within the brain and automatic system we also get an increase in oxygen to the body!

So with this being said I am going to post some of my favorite music!! I'm sure there is some awfully random stuff on here! I may get around to organizing it. ;)

Enjoy!!!!

30 Days to Finding Love

We all want love in our life! But if you're feeling like you're exhausting all your avenues and your efforts aren't being rewarded, it may be time to take a step back and re-evaluate the whole situation. This is not to say you're doing anything wrong, just in the frazzled state of OMG-I'M-NOT-MEETING-ANYONE-AND-I'M-GONNA-BE-SINGLE-FOREVER, things do tend to be overlooked!
So, first, you're going to need a piece of paper and preferred writing utensil. Oh yes, this is going to involve some work. But that's part of the process. By physically writing and putting the energy in by focusing on what you're wanting, you're also releasing what you want to manifest. I explain manifestation in this way... When you exercise your biceps with weights you're saying "I want THESE muscles to look THIS way"... Your thoughts, memories, actions and reactions also hold manifesting energy.

Day 1 - With your paper, write down what you're looking for! Really think about what you're looking for. "Someone that respects me" goes a lot further than "A Dr. who makes $500,000 a year that'll take care of me". Just think, you could end up with that doctor... but they could also work 60 hours a week. Financially they're taking care of you, but emotionally, you end up bankrupt!! Leave this paper somewhere you'll see it every day so you can be reminded what you're working towards! (P.S. Decorating it up a little so it POPS for you is even better!)

Day 2 - Take a look at your list... Now, think of any past relationships that DIDN'T meet those expectations! Don't start kicking yourself for feeling foolish if they wronged you or you gave then a "second chance" for the upteenth time. There's a lot of reasons we give excuses to things... Hope usually seems to be high on the list! People can and do change. But that doesn't mean compromising yourself in THEIR process. Release those feelings that it may have been your fault. Accept that there was a part you had played and that it wasn't your fault or theirs. Relationships take the work of both parties, it can't be up to just one to make things "right". This may be a longer process.. I see no reason for feeling past relationships that failed hold no importance in our lives. Just because there may have been a bad memory, doesn't mean it was ALL bad. The purpose here is finding that balance and common ground that a relationship really needs. Finding that in yourself and MOVING forward will bring that long needed sigh of relief!

Day 3 - This is a day for getting out!! GO DO ANYTHING! It doesn't matter if it's the grocery store, mall, park, gym, theater, library... anywhere that another human companion might be, the better!! LOL! It's very easy to write a list of things you want to do and then never do them.. If you're going to have love in your life, I doubt the top thing you'll want to be doing is watching tv on a Friday night at 8 pm! That's not to say go running around like a teenager (unless, you are one!), but surrounding yourself with those who have similar interests is one of the best ways to find a starting ground to network out. I can't tell you how many relationships I know were started because someone knew somebody they just HAD to meet!

Day 4 - It's PAMPERING DAY!! It is just amazing what a new haircut can do! Now, I'm not saying go out and get a haircut.. though if you want to, GO FOR IT!! But maybe buy yourself a new nail color or shoes if your female, shirt or cologne if your male. Enjoy a nice, long, hot shower or bath. Think of the water as the love that will "shower" or "bathe" you. Try holding this visualization for 5 minutes. Make sure you really take the time to pamper yourself and make yourself feel good. This is a practice time too for DATE NIGHT!

Day 5 - It's time to go over the list again. Take a look and see if there's anything you'd like to change or add. That is all for today!

Day 6 - Tell someone you love them! It could be your best friend, mom, aunt, cousin.. BUT, it must be an actual person and not your beloved cat, dog, etc.! LOL! The purpose here is sometimes it might have been a while since we've said it, or even heard it. I love you probably isn't said nearly enough as it should be. What emotions are you feeling when you say it or hear it?

Day 7 - Compliment a total stranger! This may be simpler to achieve by going somewhere again. Compliments make people feel good about themselves and lifts vibrational energy for everyone around! There is a cashier at one grocery store near me that has the most beautiful aquamarine colored eyes, and I make sure to tell her every time I can!!

Day 8 - Reach out a helping hand. Take a few canned goods or old clothes to a shelter. Or if you want to be involved more on a continued basis, volunteer at a hospital, or animal shelter or visit the elderly. I regularly stop at senior homes to visit with them. This started with my step-sister when I was in high school and her grandfather was in a nursing home. The people I met there became great friends of mine, even though most of them were 70 years older than me! Since then I've just always made it a point to be involved with the elderly. The stories of times long forgotten hold such a magic in them!

Day 9 - Take this time to think about what you've done so far! If you are following along daily, you should have a feeling of "connectedness", for lack of a better word! LOL! People you might not have ever come into contact with have now been introduced into your world! Your "happiness level" should be on the rise!

Day 10 - Write a fictional letter to the opposite sex and tell them why you're sorry they were dumped! This is going to bring up a LOT you might not have thought you saw in a different view. Think about what it is to be on both sides of things, from BOTH perspectives! Maybe you were the girl who just wanted to snuggle on the couch and when he said he wanted to go out you took it as he didn't want to spend quality time together.. whereas maybe he saw it that it would end up just flipping through the stations barely saying anything and he wanted to take you out for some fun and show you off to everyone because your his girl! This can get to be a lot of fun and you can really come up with some good scenarios! Of course, you will think of past relationships.. if you need to write a letter to address what was there, do it. Then burn it and release it from having the hold on you!

Day 11 - Call a friend and have a conversation about relationships! If you can, call one that is single and one that isn't. Even better if you can call both sexes too!! Find out their thoughts, are they matching yours? What's different? Not only is it going to have you thinking, but it'll get them thinking too.. which could be good or bad, depending on their situation!!

Day 12 - Appreciation. Appreciate what you have. Appreciate what you had. Appreciate what you WILL have.

Day 13 - Be understanding. People have different preferences. People have different pain tolerances. Things befall people that we can't control. We also don't react to situations in the same way. Be more willing to understand and accept that men and woman ARE different... just as EVERY person is different! Embrace your own individuality!

Day 14 - Reverseitall! I think we have all seen the silly parody pic on the internet! Take a moment, take a deep breath and close your eyes. See a big blue sky and fill it with all your worries, fear, all the negative feelings you have for yourself or others. Don't worry if it starts getting a little crowded! Hold those images there and know that you DON'T need them! Then blow them away.... this can just be mentally with seeing the wind clear them away giving you sunny skies or physically blow them away while mentally seeing it in your minds eye as well. The more "connections" you can make the more manifesting energy you put forth! Notice how much freer and lighter you feel!

Day 15 - Learn something completely new! Always wanted to learn to sew or speak Spanish? Never took trigonometry? Ok, that's probably not high on everyone's list! LOL! But you know what I mean. Give yourself the chance to do something you've pushed on to the back burner! Why wait any longer? This just gives you one more thing you might have in common with someone else!

Day 16 - Realize that the completely new task you just started yesterday might "stall out". LOL! The point is that just because something is new, doesn't mean it'll be withstanding without doing what's needed to nourish it. You can learn all you want, but unless you have an outlet for it, you'll feel the efforts are futile. You can only speak Spanish at a computer screen for so long before it gets boring! LOL!

Day 17 - Think of the last mistake you made. C'mon, you know you have one.. How did it make you feel? If the mistake impacted someone else, how do you think they felt? Hold this feeling for a moment. It probably isn't a good one unfortunately. However, that's life. We have to take the good with the bad. If we didn't have those "bad things" we'd never know how GOOD things would be. You should be aware of what makes you feel good and what makes you feel bad..

Day 18 - HATE. One of the strongest words/emotions out there... Yet it get's tossed around when a better word to use is probably frustrated!!! When you break it down, there is usually a reason behind you feeling such intensity. Let these emotions go!! They do you no good.

Day 19 - Time to look at the list again and make any additional revisions!!

Day 20 - Trust. Trust that you get what you NEED. Which might not always be what you WANT. From the time we're little we trust unconditionally and conditionally. It takes time to just trust that you'll have WHAT you NEED, WHEN you NEED it. The Universe always knows what we want.. and sometimes we get that even when we know the pain it might cause. But maybe we NEEDED to know that pain to know what we thought we WANTED, really wasn't!

Day 21 - Time. By now you've accomplished so much you probably don't even realize it! Emotionally, you've covered the spectrum. You've accomplished energy manifestations, clearing emotional blocks all in a short time! When good things are happening we hardly notice the time that passes, it's when the problems creep in that time seems to suddenly become a BIG problem. "OMG they haven't called in 3 days!" or "This report needs revised and I only have 2 days to get it done, it'll NEVER happen!" or "I always told myself I'd be married by 27 and now I'm 30!". We put so many time restraints to things, that we miss out what in the present! Let those time restraints go... what may be here now, may not always be there tomorrow. To live in the present is to truly LIVE!

Day 22 - Build your palace in the clouds. I haven't given many meditative exercises. Though this is one that serves it's purpose well! Your secret lair or palace or whatever is your place of rejuvenation. If you could have the most perfect room in your home, this would be it!! Find a comfy spot to lie down, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Try to relax to where your breathing becomes a comfortable rhythm. "Feel" a beautiful pink glowing energy light encasing you filling you with love and peace. Find yourself standing outside of a door, notice the door and walls structure and build. See a golden light streaming out of the cracks of the door. Feel your hand on the door's handle or knob. As you pull the door open, the golden light flashes and you see the most beautiful room imaginable. Take time to "decorate" your room as you like... On one wall though there will need to be a laundry chute. Or if you are like some of my bank teller friends, you can imagine it like the outside tube chute! This is a very special item. It'll take anything you don't want!! Had a bad day? Give it to the chute! Had a fight with a friend? Release your frustrations into the chute! You don't need to hold onto those negative feelings.. allow them to go to the Universe to take them and neutralize them. Then take some time to relax in your room. In mine I have gigantic plush bean bags, an indoor hot tun and pool.. it's a lot of fun! Now, go to your room!!

Day 23 - With all that fun time in meditation.. it's time to get out there and do something again!! If you haven't found something new to try yet or you tried but it wasn't for you... try something else! Life's lessons will never stop, so even after these 30 days.. it'll still be up to you to keep trying new things.. keep making mistakes.. keep having good times and keep having bad ones!

Day 24 - Less than a week left! Tsk tsk.. there's that time thing again! So what if they've shown up now or haven't. What's next? You might just want to come try a reading with me and I'll focus directly on your situation!

Day 25 - Once again, a day for appreciation. Appreciate what you have. Appreciate what you had. Appreciate what you WILL have.

Day 26 - HOUSE PARTY!! Set something up with some friends for some fun time! Try to have a mix of friends that don't all know each other, and have them invite some of their friends. If you want to throw some extra fun into it, make it a theme party! Not only will it be fun, but theme parties when you're an adult also bring a lot of fun memories of being a kid and the environment is usually 10x more jovial! Some fun themes.. Hawaiian, Magical Creatures, Cartoon Land. Be sure to get plenty of pictures!

Day 27 - Clean up! Whether there was a party or not.. it's time for some restructuring. Take another look at your list of what you're working towards and make sure it still resonates with you. Now, if you have any other clutter that you've been putting off, get it gone!! Our direct environment has an effect on how we feel. How much better do we feel when our desk is clean and free of coffee ring stains and the pens all work?! This might take a little longer than a day if you've been putting it off, but at least this gives you a reason to get a start on it!

Day 28 - Pampering time again!! If you put that haircut off the first time around... ;) We all need to take time for ourselves and it's very easy to get caught up in everything else around us that we lose ourselves if we let it go for too long. I regularly make sure I have my "beauty time".. but then again I'm Italian and if I don't wax.. YIKES! LOL! Try to regularly set some time for yourself in a way you're feeling relaxed and pampered!

Day 29 - Review all the days again... see how your emotions correlate to each of the days now. Know that it is in the past. There were good days and there were bad days, but each day held it's own significance. Review any other past feelings that you may have felt conflicted over that have still yet to be cleansed. If you can't reason them out to find the balance... go to your room, place them in the chute, and TRUST.

Day 30 - Well I am really proud of you if you've made it through the full 30 days! By now there have been a lot of experiences. You may have been journaling about it or simply pondering over it as you went along. The point of these exercises is to live and love. Live in the present and know that the future is always just a nanosecond away! Love as much as you can every day! Now go spread some love!

Love comes in many ways. In the last 30 days there were the highs and lows of love. There were feelings associated with romantic love and feelings of love for friends and family. No matter what form, love is LOVE.
I wish you the best and if you would like me to look into your love situation, please fee free to contact me for a reading.

Here are a few books I recommend regarding love and relationships.